To help you get ahead and win at the game of life!

This website got its name for a very good reason, and that reason is to improve the lives of those that read it through practical and honest advice! As I am a 35 year old man, this article is written from a man’s perspective, though I do feel there is value for all genders to be found.

111 Things Learned After Thirty

Things learned after thirty will help organize your life

Here is the first piece of advice I have:

Learn to compartmentalize & prioritize your life

When something is organized, not only does it become easier to learn, but you are able to distinguish between what is serving and what is hindering your goals.

To help illustrate this point, we start this post off by organizing the things I’ve learned after thirty into ten categories to make it easier for you to absorb. By mastering these aspects of life, you will be well on your way to maximizing your potential and becoming the person you’ve always wanted to be, and it will also make the things you set out to accomplish more achievable!

The 11 most important things i’ve learned after thirty

  1. Learn to compartmentalize & prioritize your life
  2. Life Doesn’t come with an instruction manual
  3. Cleaning up your habits
  4. Find your spirituality
  5. Become a lifelong learner
  6. Take care of your body
  7. Master communication
  8. Love deeply, but love yourself first
  9. Get in the habit of creating value
  10. Become a successful investor
  11. Create purpose for yourself

Mastering these 11 categories will allow you to build yourself up to be the type of person others can rely on, and want to spend time with, but they will also turn you into the type of person that you enjoy spending time with yourself.

Learning to love spending time with yourself is one the most important part lessons there are!

111 practical Things Learned After Thirty
Life is filled with choices!

Life Doesn’t come with an instruction manual

We are born into a set of circumstances and from the moment we open our eyes, a lot of things aren’t in our control, the values we learn and the resources we have access to are restricted by the environment that surrounds us. This is all circumstantial and while it may be your starting point, it doesn’t determine where you end up!

Here are:

  1. Learn how to lead – First yourself, then others. Leading means making decisions and living with the consequences, and also happens to be one of the most attractive traits a man can develop, your main role in the bedroom and in life is to lead, so become good at it!
  2. Determine your values – We mentioned circumstantial influences in the intro, but it is what we choose to be important to determine where we end up. Check out our article on determining our values for some tips and tricks to help you along the way
  3. It’s all about creating value – One of your values should be creating value. For your partner, in your career, and for others around you. Value is the main social currency in circulation and it can be traded for almost anything! If you are able to create value, you will never be short of money, friendship, or love.
  4. Perseverance is key – Nothing in life worth doing is easy, but there is also a secret to it. Something is only hard until it’s not. Then it becomes rewarding, these principles carry out over every aspect of life, from fitness to music to learning how to trade.
  5. Set the right habits – The things you spend time on will determine the person you become.
  6. Life is about setting goals – A goal is created for a purpose, and in exchange creates purpose, without which life literally has no meaning. If you don’t create it for yourself, others will fill the void with all kinds of useless crap!
  7. Courtesy is given, and respect is earned – Be patient, gentle, and kind towards others, but don’t let them walk over you. Working hard on yourself teaches you to respect yourself, and you should apply those same standards to those you spend time with.
  8. Nobody is gonna wipe your ass for you – You’re not a pretty girl that can pack up your shit and move into somebody else life, and your parents won’t always be there to bail you out. Become the type of guy that others can rely on.
  9. Take accountability for your actions – Nothing loses respect faster than watching somebody try and shift blame.
  10. Focus on finding solutions – Not only does this create value, but you’ll become good at it.

    The only time you should put this principle aside is when you’re girlfriend or wife is moaning about their problems, believe it or not, most of the time they aren’t looking for solutions and just want to vent.

By creating a set of principles by which you govern yourself, you unclutter your life from unnecessary thoughts. If you already know what the right thing to do is, it becomes easy to do and cuts out hesitation and the hundreds of our people waste on it.

This is not to say become rigid, no rules are cast in stone, but if you know what you value, then you know what you should do. You can check out our self-development section for more related content on building a great life!

Cleaning up your habits is one of the most important things to learn before and after thirty

Cleaning up your habits

Drugs are fun, loose women are fun, and procrastination is fun. Everything is fun until it isn’t

Usually, by the point we realize this, we have already paid a higher price than we were willing to pay. As I said in the previous section, the habits you keep, determine the man you become, and replacing bad ones with good ones, is the difference between success and failure.

Habits are one of the most important aspects of our life, educate yourself and learn how they work. A great place to start is by picking up the Power of Habit, by Charles Duhigg, and heading over to Huberman labs on Youtube, where Dr. Andrew Huberman will teach you loads of interesting stuff on dopamine and addiction. You can also check out our section on overcoming addiction, for some great content on the topic!

One of the best things learned after thirty is spirituality

Find your spirituality

This is not about religion, this is about connecting with the universe. You open your eyes and start experiencing the world you’re born into, your environment, parents, and everything else you encounter is circumstantial. This is about getting comfortable with yourself, and being able to find the balance within that seems to elude so many people.

  1. Spend Time in nature – Emerse yourself in it. Go hiking, swimming, and exploring. Get out of the hustle and bustle of the world and allow yourself to observe the natural world around you. Humanity has found its greatest insights and inspirations from observing the natural laws that govern our reality.
  2. Meditate – This is one of those hard things that remain hard until suddenly it isn’t. It becomes even harder in the modern world, with continuous digital distractions, but developing a meditation practice is a sure way to reveal your own secrets as well as those of the universe. Personally, I view it as a form of prayer, where you ask for nothing, but receive exactly what you need. The more you do it, the better you will get at it and the more it will reward you with mental clarity, wisdom, and fortitude.
  3. Start practicing yogaFitness, flexibility, as well as all the benefits of meditation. Learn to master your body and a whole new world becomes available to you. Yoga is universal, but there is probably more benefit in it for us guys than for the ladies out there. Learning how to do complete kegals and exploring tantric practices opens a whole new world under the sheets
  4. Experiment with psychedelics – Note, psychedelics, not amphetamines, and other toxic shit. Psychedelics open up the same doors to spirituality as the other practices described here, just that they are a lot more forceful and carry a lot more risk, use them wisely. Nobody wants to be the guy on his knees in the mud at 4 am meeting god.
  5. Spend time with some Buddhists – They are usually pretty fun people, and often have a lot of wisdom to share and are pretty good at teaching it.

    Don’t limit yourself to one religion though, learn what Hinduism is about, and read your Bible and Quran, these practices are so established in our cultures exactly because of the wisdom they contain, and what you choose to incorporate into your life is completely up to your own discretion.
  6. Contemplate your own mortality – Get comfortable with death, it’s the only certainty in life. Everyone you know and love is going to experience it too. For some reason, we have convinced ourselves it’s a bad thing, but just like everything else in life, it’s part of the experience. The Roman Emperor Marcus Aurelius has some great advice from his meditations: “Contemplate our death daily
  7. Write and journal – There is no better way to get your thoughts out than to write them down. We learn to write in school and we associate it with work, however, once you’re able to get that notion out of your head, you get to experience the real joy of being able to express your thoughts and feelings through pen and paper, take it from a blogger!
  8. Practice gratitude – Literally the best practice you can have if you want to be rewarded by the universe. The more you implement being thankful into your life, the more it will reveal its secrets to you, and the more you will become aware of the wonderful endless possibilities that it brings into your life. It also keeps your ego in check and makes you a better person to be around.
  9. Spend time alone – Go on a solo retreat, hike alone for a week, travel by yourself, or just keep that meditation habit up. The more time you spend with yourself the more you will evolve as an individual. You can naturally sense the comfortable air around a person that is at ease with themself.
  10. Learn how to breathe – It’s the one thing you do from the moment you’re born, up until the day you die, yet we rarely practice it. Yoga will teach you the basics, your body will do the rest. Go listen to the science of breath, and stop breathing through your mouth like a western barbarian.

All of these practices will clear your mind and put you in a state of receiving. We are so obsessed with the wants and desires of our ego that we spend most of our time living in the future, creating dream castles, and distracting ourselves from the reality that is right in front of us. This is probably the most important part of this list.

We have an entire section dedicated to this pursuit of reconnecting with the universe and spirituality, which you can check out here.

Things Learned after thirty

Become a lifelong learner

Which is something you already are, whether you know it or not.

From the moment you open your eyes for the first time you are learning and adapting to your environment. It only makes sense to put a bit of practice into those, above and beyond what we are taught at school or university, not only are there dozens of different ways to learn, but there are certain skills you can train that will bring in twice the results with half the effort.

Let’s learn how to apply this!

Learning how to learn, and then learning the right things is probably the best investment you can make, with returns that will continue to reward you regardless of where you’re at in your life!

Keep putting in the effort and you will reap the rewards!

One of the most important things learned after thirty is taking care of your body!

Take care of your body

While a great practice in general, if there is one section that becomes more important after thirty, then taking care of your body is definitely it, but the sooner your start, the better your results will be!

We are also not gonna talk about anything crazy here, these are the basic standard that should be maintained throughout life!

  1. Kick the junk food – This means Fast food, sugary snacks, and pretty much anything with artificial flavouring in it. Trust me, you can do without it and if you’re learning to cook, one of the most incredible things to experience as a amateur chef is the world of spices.

    Kicking junkfood by no means implies lowering that standard of the dishes you consume!

    Just make it the right ones!
  2. Get enough sleep – As simple as that, it’s one of the best things you can do for your overall well being. The old saying beauty sleep was right too. If you are the type that struggles to fall asleep, go check out our article on the best natural ways to fall asleep faster and change your life.
  3. Walking does wonders – 20 minutes of your day, four times a week to change your health for better for the rest of your life. In today’s busy lifestyle it is so easy to lack movement, walking fixes this, and so much more.

    We lose most of our fat through breathing, and by walking, you breath more. It is an opportunity to connect to your breath, and connect to the moment.
  4. Build an exercise routine – Walking is the foundation, but to really get your life running the right way you need to add more to that routine. This could be hitting the gym, taking up a physical sport, joining a hiking club, yoga, or anything that adds to a overall healthy lifestyle.

    This routine opens up social circles and builds a lifestyle where healthy activity is the norm.
  5. Pick the right hobbies – They physical activities mentioned above are the right kind, but not the only kind of right hobbies. If you spend your time on the wrong types of activities, you will get the wrong kind of results. Get your focus right and you will continue to grow and improve in the direction you spend your time.

    It made the list on it’s own, but read more, cut out distractions like social media, work in activities you enjoy doing, and if you don’t know what that is, start figuring it out, you won’t know until you try, and each hobby is a key that opens the door to a whole new word of wonder within its domain.
  6. Know your limits – This is not to say don’t live outside your comfort zone, to be growing you need to be continuously putting yourself just outside those limits. Everything in life has some limitations to it, even if it’s only the consequences of those actions that restrict us from taking them.

    The wise person seeks out the boundaries and knows where to find the balance.
  7. Limit your screen time – I have mentioned social media before, but here I mean the entire digital world.

    It is hard to be able disconnect in today’s world, especially when often our social and professional lives only exist because of it, but this is exactly why it is so important to create some intentional distance.

    Keep your devices out of your rooms, cellphones, I-Pads and TV’s included.
  8. Monitor your emotions – If you’ve ever heard the saying: “He who loses his cool, loses”, then you will know the truth in managing your emotions. Staying in control, doesn’t mean of the situation, but of yourself, and behaving like a person with options.

    The practice of monitoring your emotions allows you to better be aware of them and enables you to keep them in check, and the consideration of options allows you to think rationally about what your best way forward is. This will not only help you in any potential situations of conflict, be they physical or emotional, but is great advice for life in general.

    Emotional observation is a cornerstone of living happy life.
  9. Use the right supplements – Notice how some drugs are okay?

    Controversial opinions aside, there are some things that are really good for you, and listening to medical professionals like Andrew Huberman, is a great way to discover what the right kind for you is. It is well worth understanding how these substances effect our body, and what we can take to coutneract some of the negative things we do to ourselves, as well as what is okay to indulge in, and what should be used with caution.
  10. Keep it clean – In addition to the bi-daily shower, be careful with it, despite medical advances you still only get one. It operates just like a slightly more complicated car, feed it the right fuel and keep it well services and it will take you many, many miles, learn to fix it yourself, many more, but neglect it and you will be stuck on the side of the road before you know it.

Self-dicipline is the key, find your core values and activities that define you, or create them if you lack them, and structure your life in such away that taking care of yourself is automatic.

When you’re able to do this, life becomes easier, and you are able to get a lot more miles out of the ride.

Improve your communication by listening and learning

Master communication

Your ability to communicate with the universe determines your success within it.

Individual variation gives us all different starting points and different talents, however communication is something that needs to be practiced in order to master it. It’s a long journey, but a fascinating one as you explore the intricacies of our existence and our relationships with each other.

This is such an important aspect that we have an entire section, as well as a library filled with great content and information on how to master the art, but for now, let’s go over the basics and continue with out list:

The word pursausion has such a negative frame attached to it, however it is the art we need to master if we want to get the most out of ourselves, and the world around us. This is a manipulation, no matter which way you look at it, however the nature of that manipulation is the result of your conscious desire.

To master it, you’ve got to fall in love with communication, the good and the bad.

one of the best Things learned after thirty is that you need to love deeply, but love yourself first

Love deeply, but love yourself first

Love is such a hard word to define, it is so much more than the simple seeking of pleasure or an affectionate state, and has many different kinds, friendship, familial, romantic, and even the unfortunately rare kind of unconditional.

To me love is a form of truth, a way of viewing the world as a reflection of yourself as much as you are a reflection of it.

  1. Practice what you preach – Your word is your bond, and it should remain that way. Breaking promises to yourself and to others is terrible habit to keep, and steers you down dark roads.

    It makes life easier to be honest, and if you’ve been brushing up on your communication skills, then you know that being honest, by no means makes you a simpleton, the opposite in fact, you need to be pretty intelligent to live within the bounds of honesty, and just devious enough to know to tread over it as little as possible, nobody is perfect, neither are lives circumstances, but having a standard helps, as you’ll see below.
  2. Get yourself up to standard – Physically, financially, emotionally. Without these three things there is no way for you to play your role a healthy interdependent relationship. Having standards for yourself will allow you set standards for the partners you’ll have, whatever the rules of that relationship.
  3. Be honest – There is a level of compromise in most relationships, however always be honest with yourself and with your partner. If the terms of the relationship and ability to compromise steps over either of your boundaries, it’s better to make the cut of fless to save bone, and if you’ve got your standards right, your partner will understand this too.
  4. Take the red pill – If you are a man, you need to understand female nature, if you’re a woman, view it as either defense against the dark arts, or a metric to measure your men by. There are some harsh truths and bitter pills to swallow for all genders, however there is truth in the social observation reflected within the community.
  5. Forget about most of it – Despite what modern media wants us to believe, the world is still filled with amazing people. Take the knowledge and use it to better yourself and improve your understanding of intersexual dynamics, there is a reason seduction is one of the key points of communication.
  6. Don’t kiss and tell – This one speaks for itself, but keep your lips shut, as we mentioned earlier under guarding your tongue, nobody likes a braggart. Stay away from your friends partners though, never shit where you eat.
  7. Fast cars, not fast women – It comes back to mastering your lust. Nothing will fuck up your life faster than a toxic partner by your side. Find quality over quantity and work on looking after it, this might mean less, but it ends up meaning so much more later on in life.
  8. Learn how to please – Buy a book if you need to, but the best way is to hop onto youtube for some good tips, and to then practice them out with a willing partner. They will thank you for it, so will every other person you end up sleeping with.

    There are some great coaches out there, but my personal favorites is Ex-Porn star Stirling Cooper, who offers some great insights and reflections with style on topics that a lot of people don’t even want to touch.
  9. Don’t talk about your problems with her – At least not easily, as a man, it is okay to share the important stuff with a intimate partner, but even doing that over time is enough to make her start losing attraction to her.

    This may sound harsh, and I’m by no means implying gaslighting anyone, simply that as a man you are the lighthouse that stands firm against the waves that are her emotion. Your ability to control your emotions is one of your most attractive and reliable features and when you share too much of the negative, you are only sowing seeds of discord for your future self.
  10. Always be leading her – You may consider this a harsh condition to be a lesson, however it’s something we are already doing, most of the time, just not very consciously.

    Become a good leader for yourself, and you will be a good leader for friends, lovers and any others you stumble across.

Masculine energy is centered around leadership, leading your partner on the date, in the bedroom and through life. Femine nature is by nature more submissive, but this does not mean they need leadership anyless, they are perfectly capable, just that they choose not too.

Most relationships come to an end, because the submissive partner is not satisfied with the direction the person playing the dominant role is leading them, which leads them to either take up that role themselves, or find it in others.

one of the things learned after thirty is to create value for other humans

Get in the habit of creating value

Value really is one of the cornerstones of our existence, it makes up our entire modern monetary world, rules nations and has the power to do great and terrible things, yet it originated from somewhere pretty simple.

Judgement is a good thing when used to meet your standards, but a terrible thing to weild around too freely, and doing so will make you blind to many of the things there are to value from those around you.

Things learned after thirty should include growing your wealth

Become a successful investor

As flawed as it is, money is a part of our current lives, regardless of which form of it we use. Life becomes a lot easier when you have a better understanding of what money is, where it comes from and how it is and how it is connected to our lives.

The important part is to get it working for you, not you working for it. It is a representation of value in society, but not as what we value as individuals, mastering the management of it, is in many ways mastering yourself.

  1. Learn the basic fundamentals of investing – Read a few books, watch a few videos, but most importantly start working towards it. Understanding how the economy works, what drives it and how to diversify and protect yourself is one of the best steps you can make in life, and not that complicated if you follow the right steps

    Check out our guide to get started
  2. Create a diverse portfolio – After understanding the basics it’s time to get the foundation in place, and this is done with a lot of research and a good understanding of the different types of investments available and the risk involved with each of them.
  3. Set up a functional trading plan – This means setting some rules for yourself. As mentioned at the start, investing is very much the art of mastering yourself, and a trading plan helps establish boundaries, protect your capital and most importantly detach some of the emotion from the decisions you’re making.
  4. Pick the right platforms – Every type of investment you will want to make, will have an exchange facilitating the transactions you are going to be making, and picking the right platform for the job is part of the key to success.

    Don’t trade on shitty or dodgy exchanges, learn where to trade crytpo, where to trade stocks, and what the risks involved with each of these third parties are.
  5. Avoid costly mistakes – Just head straight over and check out my article on how not to lose all your money trading crypto, if you want to learn anything about costly mistakes. There are so many simple things you can do to set yourself up for success right from the start, and it helps knowing what to look out for!
  6. Create a risk management strategy – This is good advice for life in general, consider your risks and decide what you can afford to take. At the end of the day we all end up in the same place, but it’s still in your best interest to try and get there in the way you want to.
  7. Don’t listen to Youtubers or influencers – Not all the time, but definitely when it comes to promises of overnight success or technologies that sound to good to be true, until you;ve done your own research on it, and determined that it fits into your risk profile.
  8. Do your own research – Could be considered the most important rule of trading, as well as life if you choose to live a free one. By drawing your own conclusions you refine your process and start winning more than you lose.
  9. Slow and steady wins the race – While there are hotspots in between, this is a marathon not a race. Small micro decisions and focussing on the bigger picture is what will lead to the greatest success. Focus on investing in things you see the potential in based on your understanding of the world, and always be on the look out for reasons not to invest.

There is nothing worse for a new investor to get 2-3 big wins early on in their career, it changes the way they look at risk, and can give you a false sense of security by making you think trading is always easy.

So if you are ever in this position, be sure to lock in those profits and redistribute it across your portfolio. Do this prudently enough and you will never have to work on anything you don’t want to again.

Existential crises are one of the things learned after thirty

Create purpose for yourself

Purpose is a strange thing. You have to have a need to create it. You can find it through interactions and experiences, but the best kinds remain the ones you pick for yourself. Creating purpose in a sense is creating a reality for yourself. You still have to adhere to the rules of the governing world, but by navigating the currents, you have the ability to change it to your will.

The final thing learned after thirty

We live in a world that isn’t perfect, and a lot of people struggling with their own realities. Some of us are more successful at this than others, if you’re fortunate enough to be in a position to be further along your journey than others may be, be a positive force that makes a difference wherever it can.

You never know when it could be your turn to be in somebody else’s shoes.

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